By Karin Friedemann, TMO
For many of us, the holidays are the saddest time. There are some biological reasons for this â€“ the Solstice on December 21st is the darkest day of the year and there is a lot of depression associated with lack of sunlight.
For this reason, the Romans came up with the Festival of Lights to help dispel the gloom of darkness and the fear of death that comes with freezing weather, which in todayâ€™s world means electronic lights displayed on Christmas trees, candlelit Hanukkah menorahs, and an enduring tradition of attempting to be especially kind to one another. Science reports that American suicide rates are 30% lower during the holiday season, so apparently the effect of â€œgood cheer and good will towards all menâ€ is not just a theory.
Muslim families face a challenge during these special times, because we do not celebrate Christmas. We donâ€™t even have a counter-holiday. A hilarious youtube video entitled, â€œChristmas Sucks for Desisâ€ clearly explains our childrenâ€™s tender emotions:
â€œWe will get a mix of a bunch of feelings on this day – No Rudolphs, no horse-drawn sleigh â€“ All we get is a closed Safeway!â€
Americans who have converted to Islam may feel especially sensitive at this time, because we have beautiful childhood memories associated with Christmas that are deeply connected to our cultural traditions. It is hard to explain how depressing it can be to find yourself sitting alone on Christmas Eve, simply due to a conscious choice not to celebrate that holiday. No more late night prayers singing carols praising the birth of our Savior. No more angels, no more shepherds, no more Blessed Virgin Mary and her adorable baby. No more hanging warm socks and mittens on a tree to donate to charity.
Hey wait! Is all of this so bad? The whole point of adoring a newborn baby is that we are in a state of total awe at what God alone can accomplish â€“ the birth of hope in the future of humanity.
The Prophethood of Jesus marked a very important milestone in the history of spiritual philosophy. Before that, in the Old Testament, it was â€œmy God is better than your god.â€ Jesus brought a message that changed life on earth forever. The ancient Germans used to burn widows on the funeral pyres of their deceased husbands, but after they learned about Christâ€™s teachings, they completely changed their way of life to one that involved fighting for the security of widows! The Aztek American Indians used to engage in ritual sacrifice of virgin girls. Now they revere the Virgin Mary. We have come a long way.
If you were to pick up a Quran, knowing nothing, you would think this is a book primarily about Jesus (pbuh). We have holidays to remember Abraham, Moses and Mohammad, while the Shias retell the tale of Hussainâ€™s martyrdom every year at Ashura. Yet we donâ€™t always take the time to retell the story of the miracle of the birth of Jesus.
When my five year old daughter started whining about why we donâ€™t have a Christmas tree, I decided to teach her the true meaning of Christmas. I then realized how important it is for someone who wants to truly understand the Quran to read the Bible too. The stories about Jesus are told in the Bible in such detail that we do not find in the Quran, yet the Quran references these old stories in such a way that if we did not know the old stories, we cannot fully grasp the meaning of the Quran. The Quran serves in many ways as a commentary on the older books, which Jesus came to Earth to interpret for us. The Quran states that Jesus said:
â€œ And (I come as) a verifier of that which is before me of the Torah… I have come to you with a sign from your Lord; therefore be careful of (your duty to) Allah and obey me.â€ (Al-Imran:50)
We are ordered to obey Christ, yet we know precious little about how to obey Christ UNLESS we familiarize ourselves with the older books. Since Muslims have nothing else to do on Christmas, why not spend some time with our children studying about our Messiah? I read to my daughter from the Quran:
â€œ… Allah said: O Jesus, I am going to terminate the period of your stay (on earth) and cause you to ascend unto Me and purify you of those who disbelieve and make those who follow you above those who disbelieve to the Day of Resurrection…â€ (Al-Imran: 55)
I explained to her that the message of Jesus (pbuh) apart from the mythology is clear: â€œLove your neighbor as you love yourself. Do unto others as you would have done to yourself.â€ If someone did not do that, he did not follow Godâ€™s prophet.
What matters is that we are going to die, and if we did not be kind to other people, God will punish us. But if we followed Christâ€™s teachings, God will be merciful to us.
Humanity is in a state of darkness. There is absolutely no hope for us. We are a bunch of hopeless sinners and losers. We keep fighting for ourselves, and all we do is just keep dragging each other down. We are hardly human anymore, as a species. We are in a complete state of loss: except those who have faith, and who do good deeds, and remind one another to be righteous, and not to give up hope. I think that is the true meaning that we need to find in this darkest hour.
Karin Friedemann is a Boston-based freelance writer. Karinfriedemann.blogspot.com.